Not Lonely Anymore

It's been almost a year since I started this Blog, more than a year since I started my other blog Spandex & Hairspray.

I know I hardly write in these anymore, but the thing is, I'm no longer the "Lonely Work at Home Mom, Living in the Middle of Nowhere" I'm still living in the middle of nowhere, but lonely, most days, I am not.

I consider myself extremely lucky. About 8/9 months ago, I started re-connecting with many of my old friends. At first it was just one or two, but soon it exploded into many people I used to know. I found my best friends from high school, two girls who I had missed terribly for more than 15 years. I've re-connected with the people I went out with on the weekends. A great group of people who used to go to the teen dance club, hang out at the pool hall or Tim Horton's, and played football down at the lake on Sunday afternoons.

I've been really lucky to become close to a few people that I only knew as acquaintances as a kid. People I always liked but never got to know that well. We've found ourselves having so much in common, raising teenagers and young children of our own, trying to make a living and keep a roof over our heads. We all have struggled with feeling lonely and missing the fun we had as kids. Some are going through marriage breakups, some are starting new relationships. So much has changed over the years, we all have been through so much.

But now here we are, in our mid to late 30's, most of us having only minimal contact for the last 15 years. However, put us all in a room together, and it feels like no time has passed at all. We are so happy to see each other, you can tell by the smiles on our faces, the twinkle in our eyes. The guys get a bit rowdy, play fighting and pulling gags on each other. The girls sit back, talk & take everything in, laughing so hard at times our cheeks hurt and our guts ache.

We've had parties and get togethers. We might go to the bar, or just have a coffee at Tim Horton's. We send emails and text messages to each other, refusing to lose contact again. We give each other shoulders to cry on, help each other out in any way we can. Even if it is just a distraction from the pressure of being an adult & the responsibilities that brings, having that help, someone there who understands, it makes all the difference in the world.

I know they say if you are lucky enough to have one good friend in your life, that can mean everything. For that reason, I consider myself one very lucky girl, for having these people in my life again means so much to me. I will never again take for granted how important friends can be. I've learned that being a good friend takes effort and patience, but it can be the most rewarding thing you will ever do.

In a nutshell....despite all the stresses I may have, the worries about money, my kids, about work, despite all of that, my life is really awesome, and I have my friends to thank for it.